GENTLEMEN, PLEASE!!!

This column is about respect and the game of tennis. A part of our job as instructors, coaches, parent, or guardian, is to teach respect.

Teenagers specifically need to hear this message. Teenagers go through stages of rebellion, moving away from parental control, and striking out on a path of their own. That is fine, but they should mature with some understanding of the world. In tennis there should be respect for the game, players, and those around supporting the student. The student may not be able to support himself with the game but can go along way and get a lot done with what he learns from it.

I tell my students to train with sincerity, play with sincerity, make fair line calls, and make fair judgements. Treat opponents with respect. Look them in the eye, shake their hand firmly, speak clearly, and listen with understanding. Then go out on the court and play your best. Keep under control. Make it a pleasant experience for the both of you, especially when you win easily in straight sets, and your opponent is completely frustrated by your exquisite playing abilities. There is no problem in beating an opponent, or loosing to them, as long as you try your best.

Speak respectfully to the parents, and family of other players. Speak respectfully to your own parents and those supporting you. They are choosing not to do other things but to help you. They are devoting time, money, planning and thoughts. They are turning down other activities to help you through your tennis years.

Millions of people play tennis. It is fun, but it also takes serious actions to get the most out of the effort. The more respectful you are of yourself, and the game, the more you will gain in your endeavors.

Tip of the month: Along the path to maturity remember to have fun. People who have fun in tennis gain enjoyment, fulfillment, challenge and gratification. The sport is available to everyone inclined, and has far-reaching lessons to be learned about life, social interaction, and self-control.

For further information call Stan Carter, USPTA certified professional, at the Flint Canyon Tennis Club: 818-790-3355 or 213-321-8699. You are invited to please email questions and comments to Coach@StanTheTennisman.com.